Been dating for 3 years
Despite this list of reasons why international marriage can be tough at times, I would never, ever exchange it for anything else.My relationship with my husband has been the most wonderful experience in my life. Corey Heller is the founder of Multilingual Living and the Editor-In-Chief/Publisher of Multilingual Living Magazine.Not to be nosy but I suspect you were married to an Arab guy. My virgin 20 year old sister married one & he beat her & put her in the hospital! I also taught my son about Japanese history so when someone calls him mixed he will explain what he is mixed with including the different races that The Japanese people of today are mixed with lol ! My son had a good job and married to a wonderful American girl. On another hand, because we live in the U S my son is toltaly one down side, I don’t have a chance to see my family in Thailand more often. International Marriage is a tough one, and I agree with most of your list. Loneliness is the most difficult element in the relationship.I didn’t even know about it because I had moved to another State 500 miles away! It opens your mind well at least mine to being open minded and not carrying about what the world thinks of us :). We have the most wonderful time when we do visit our family . I think European marriage is slightly easier and less costly to visit your family at least! I’m also very lucky that by coincidence we now/currently live in the same region of France as my parents (who moved here before us) and my husbands parents. Luckily we live right across the street from my mother (we can wave to each other from our own houses!! I am quite an independent person and can find my way quite easily – I built a life on my own – but no matter how much I invest, a part of me will never be accepted, not even in my own home.Aside from getting used to living with one another, we had overarching cultural differences to deal with which could really wear us down and test our marriage. Even though my husband feels very comfortable here in the States, he still doesn’t feel 100 percent at home.Even today we hit cultural nuances that test our boundaries. Not only do others treat him as a foreigner, no matter how hard he tries, this country will just never hold the same degree of comfort as his country of origin. Ever since my husband and I have been together vacations have taken on a whole new meaning: Visiting family.How else can our families see their grandchildren/niece/nephews grow up? While others are investing their extra dollars in college or retirement accounts, we are saving up for our next airline tickets to Germany!We love visiting family but it can put an added strain on our marriage since we never really get a “true” vacation to places that we’d like to visit and don’t know a soul. ,000 is a lot of money which we’d love to be able to invest for the future.
Our children will never be able to have both sets of grandparents living nearby. Skype is a wonderful thing but it still doesn’t replace spending time with real, live grandparents, aunts and uncles. And here is one more general question: Where will we be buried when we die? Many of us know the answer already while others have no idea.
The knowledge of this weighs heavy on me from time to time. I can’t remember the last time we took a long vacation that didn’t have as its core visiting family members.