Boundaries dating physical
8 Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.
" NIVKeeping physical boundaries in courtship reveals your state of conversion.
There have been a plethora of books, seminars, and conferences devoted to teaching physical purity (saving sex for marriage) and emotional purity (guarding your heart). There is no answer to these questions because purity is an issue of the heart, not conduct.
This concept is taught by Jesus in Mark 7:1-23 when the Pharisees saw the disciples of Jesus eating without washing their hands.
The Pharisees were trying to take an outside in approach to fixing problems.
But we can’t measure a person’s spirituality on the basis of a set of rules designed to govern behavior. The problem is we are more concerned on whether our behavior conforms to a certain code of conduct than we are the issues of our heart.
Your life still has no value,” continued Smart." (source)Setting physical boundaries in your courtship has nothing to do with your worth as a person.
In light of this paradigm shift, you don't need to worship your virginity, (although you should not trivialize it either).If I asked you to house-sit for me, I'd expect you to treat my house respectfully. When you fornicate (have sex when you're not married), you are doing something destructive to someone Else's property. Therefore you must be a responsible steward of your body.I'd feel betrayed if you trashed it while I was gone. 1 Cor , 18-20 Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body... Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?When it comes to physical boundaries in courtship, we will become just like the Pharisees if we don’t understand the message Jesus tried to teach them in Mark 7.
The issue lies in our paradigm of purity and how to obtain it.Unless you have really good reasons to motivate you, maintaining physical boundaries in your courtship will crumble like the walls of Jericho when you really like someone and have become emotionally close to them.I’ve known the most conservative, Bible believing, sincere, godly people get pregnant before marriage because the temptation to be physically intimate overpowered them.As precious as the first time is, too often purity is exalted to idolatrous proportions.