Dating mentally abused women
Here are examples:"You shouldn't spend so much on clothes, you don't look good anyway.""Don't complain about how bad you have it, no one else could love you.""Working and taking courses is too much for you; you can't handle what you need to do now.""Your friends and family just want something from you.""I have to drink to be able to stand you.""One of these days you'll wake up, and I'll be gone.""You don't know the first thing about raising kids."It's important to note that most emotional abuse is not as direct and verbal as these examples.All the above can be implied with sarcasm, irony, or mumblings and can be communicated with body language, rolling eyes, sighs, grimaces, tone of voice, disgusted looks, cold shoulders, slamming doors, banging dishes, stonewalling, cold shoulders, etc.Although we never forget humiliation, it is relatively easy not to think about things that cause shame.(The root of the word, "shame" means to cover or hide.The other factor that makes emotional abuse so devastating is the greater likelihood that victims will blame themselves.If someone hits you, it's easier to see that he or she is the problem, but if the abuse is subtle - saying or implying that you're ugly, a bad parent, stupid, incompetent, not worth attention, or that no one could love you - you are more likely to think it's your problem.That's because we tend to form emotional bonds with an expectation that those we love will care about how we feel.When loved ones fail to care that we are hurt, let alone inflict hurt upon us, it feels like betrayal.
The abuse, though inexcusable, is not as painful for him.Failure of compassion in a love relationship feels like abuse.Merely refraining from abusive behaviors will do nothing to improve a relationship, though it may slow its rate of deterioration.") Emotional abuse, on the other hand, tends to happen every day.