Dating too shy women dating advice women over 50
Dating advice is outside the scope of this site, with this article being a semi-exception.
Over the years several women have written me to tell me reading this site has helped them understand the actions of a shy guy they were pursuing.
Sometimes a guy will be able to talk to someone he's interested in, often because the circumstances put them together, so the onus wasn't on him to approach anyone.
If they like someone they'll often feel too nervous to ask them out and face the awkwardness and risk of rejection that entails.
That's not to say a shy guy won't sometimes be able to chat to someone he's into, but it's relatively rare.
Sometimes they just won't get nervous around someone for whatever mysterious reason.
Even with all of the above stacked against them, a shyer, inexperienced guy will sometimes have enough things go their way that they end up in a position where they're alone with a woman and want to 'make a move' on them (e.g., kiss them, put their arm around them, etc.).
The first is when a guy simply sees a girl around a few times and makes confident eye contact with her.
She seems attracted and intrigued and like she's waiting for the guy to approach her.
It's legitimately strong, not something where they can just take a deep breath and push through it.
Sometimes this nervousness shows up as the physical symptoms of anxiety.
This could mean feeling too anxious to start a conversation with an attractive stranger they've just noticed at a party. Some shy guys, especially younger ones, have had a crush on someone for years and years, and have never worked up the nerve to talk to her.