Dating with hearing aids
The most painful of all response of all is, "Nevermind." Well, you might as well have said, "F*ck you."I know you're trying to help, but my hearing loss is my own.It is my disability, and it is my choice to share it.I know it's hard to understand, but just because I hear it doesn't mean I understand it. My hearing loss isn't going anywhere, no matter how much either of us wishes it would. If you will try to remember to be careful of the words you use, I will try to forgive the times when they are the ones that hurt. I will never be able to fully appreciate you whispering sweet nothings in my ears, and you have accepted that we can never have conversations in the dark. My brain and my ears don't work well together anymore, so I don't always know what was said even though I know someone spoke. If you will try your best to let me own my hearing loss, then I will try my best to always be open about it. We will fight, and my ears may sometimes be the problem. Most people don’t change the way they speak, so why start something that will only lead to frustration and heartache down the road. Here are some tips for successful dating with hearing loss. Don’t be shy about suggesting the location of the date. A walk in the park or a dinner or game night at home can be a romantic and unexpected date. This is most important if the date is at a restaurant or bar.Scope out good spots well beforehand, so you will be prepared when a dating opportunity arises. It will be much quieter than a night out and may be more memorable since it is out of the ordinary. Pick a spot in the corner, away from the kitchen and any noisy tables. This is a personal decision, but most of the people I know are upfront about it from the start. With hearing loss, video chat via Skype or Face Time may be a better option so you can see the person’s mouth.Everyone talks of the difficulties faced when a couple receives unfounded judgement for being in an interracial partnership or having conflicting religious views. You can understand what people are saying in groups and it doesn't matter where we are.
But already the FDA’s decision to stop enforcing rules requiring a medical evaluation and other restrictions for buying hearing aids is leading to cheaper, more innovative products.Don't get mad at me when I ask you to speak louder or more clearly. Don't get frustrated when I ask you to repeat what you said one or three more times. But we know this, accept this and choose to move forward. Dating can be tough under any circumstances – what to wear, where to go, wondering if there will be a second date. Perhaps she speaks softly or he covers his mouth with his hands.I can wear my hearing aids, but sometimes it's not enough. When you talk to me, everything you say is important, whether you think so or not.
I will probably ask you to repeat things sometimes, more so when a lot of noise is present or there are multiple people talking. It's just not the same for me as it is for you."Whatever." "Just forget it." "It's not important.” "Nevermind." These aren't curse words or dirty slang, but to me, they hurt just as much. But eventually, I'll end up crying in the front seat of your car, at home curled up on the floor or in the bathroom of the restaurant where we are having dinner. It's funny how such seemingly harmless 20th-century linguistic productions can feel like such horrid, hurtful and disgusting aberrations.
I squint, stare and lean in as you repeat the whispered comment about 10 times. As we venture out with friends and family, I grab the seat at the head of the table and try to follow the lines of communication and fail miserably. Listening is hard for me, especially when we are out to eat at a restaurant, in a dark place like a theater or club.