How to tell seriously dating someone
Not one minute of those two months was focused exclusively on you, a prerequisite to really evaluating taking a relationship to the next step.
And as much as misery loves company, misery plus misery doubles the misery. If you’re thinking to yourself right now, “The only thing I’m interested in is meeting a man,” then you’re in the deep.
No, the truth is that inside you know you won’t change him, and that’s actually fine with you because you subconsciously fear a deep relationship. It may stem from a variety of sources but the end result is that you will wind up with exactly what you’re looking for, a real project. If your self-talk sounds something like “I’m such a mess” or “Why am I so insecure sometimes? Back in the day, I loved the movie Jerry Maguire as much as all of the other teary-eyed girls in the theater, but the truth is, as much as “you complete me” sounds so romantic, it should actually be “you complement me.” If you’re not a whole person to begin with then the only thing you’ll be completing is your part in a completely dysfunctional relationship.
Which, when translated means someone with some serious personal problems of their own. ” then you need to get that taken care of before you can be in a relationship. And while that may still make for a good movie (think: As Good as it Gets), it’s no fun in real life. You’re spending more time pursuing love than pursuing your interests.
If any of the above sound like you, then you need to start looking inward and making some changes to your life in order to get yourself ready to be with someone else. Once you have these licked, you will be ready for a real relationship.
And then you’ll be in good emotional shape to start attracting the kind of man that you want to be in a relationship with, and he’ll want to be in a relationship with you too. Every time I date a nice guy, especially if I like him, I feel so insecure and wonder, what if he’s dating someone else at the same time?Just last month, I met a cute guy and we went out and had so much fun together. Now it’s been a month and we’ve gone out four times. I’m asking if you’re ready for a real relationship. I’ve been in that spot where all I could think about was how I so wanted a real relationship, with all of the affection, understanding, support and love that comes with it. It’s consistently pointing you to the wrong type of guy.