Jane austen dating rules
• When to ignore advice from your girlfriends and listen to your mother. “What are we to learn from Austen’s brand of feminism?
Nothing more or less than this: that feminist ideas mean very very little in the abstract, for they still require a strategy to make them work in the world…
Rather than a narrowly focused “how-to” for dating, she takes readers through the novels of Jane Austen, examining the women and men Austen created and the way their character informs their actions, whether in the pursuit of love or in making other important life decisions.
In the introduction titled “The Real Thing” Murphy proposes that modern dating guides have a Regency ancestor in the conduct book, full of dos and don’ts for women wishing to succeed in society: …the Regency conduct book tended to judge a woman by how she conducts herself–that is, by how she acts, by how she seems.
Other Jane Austen rules include “Be a Woman, Not a Girl,” “Find a Man, Not a Guy,” (this chapter is especially painful for Frank Churchill fans) “Listen to What They Say,” “Be Quite Independent,” “Prove It,” and “Have Great Expectations.” In the final chapter “Reader, Marry Him!
” Murphy presents a take on the institution of marriage that may surprise some readers and also addresses Austen’s personal choice not to marry.
Nevertheless, Anne Elliot is not silent, waiting patiently in the passenger seat while Captain Wentworth carries the day with his gregarious personality.What’s a strong, independent-minded woman supposed to do in a world of insipid dating guides?Witty feminist and academic Sinéad Murphy responds by asking: Who has more time-tested secrets than Jane Austen, whose novels continue to captivate us—read after read—almost two hundred years later? If you look closely at Jane Austen’s books, as Murphy has, you’ll discover Austen’s countless tips for women on finding the right leading man, navigating the ups and downs of courtship, and building a happy, independent life for yourself.Utilizing wisdom inspired by Jane Austen's novels, from and beyond, author Lauren Henderson creates an indispensable guide for navigating the all-too-mystifying dating scene. While this book had some good points, and it was fun to see what lessons might be learned fr At one point in this book the author tells of her grandmother who said in her day there were skinny girls, bigger girls, and girls in between and a man who preferred a girl that looked like you. I think this goes not just for physical preference but characteristic preference too.
Harnessing the triumphs and pitfalls of Austen's classic characters, Henderson shows how qualities like honesty, self-awareness, and forthrightness always win the right man--and still let you respect yourself in the morning. Not to say we shouldn't improve ourselves but what one woman fancies I most certainly don't. The perspective is disappointing; although much of it is sensible and well grounded, there's also a lot that is contradictory and anti-feminist.(75) Wentworth praises her capability when Louisa Musgrove is injured in Lyme.Overhearing her conversation with his friend Captain Harville, he writes, “You pierce my soul.” What finally recommends Anne to Wentworth is her demonstrated character, not her ability to make coy remarks or flatter his ego, as Louisa Musgrove does.A completely new and amusing approach to dating, includes insightful personality quizzes that reveal which Jane Austen character you--and your mate--most resemble. While this book had some good points, and it was fun to see what lessons might be learned from Jane Austen novels, I decided, while reading it, that you marry who you fall in love with in spite of the annoying (do not date this kind of guy) traits he might have. Perhaps I simply shouldn't be reading books about dating.